Do you ever feel like giving up on something? Like it’s just not worth it to you anymore?
Society tells you quitting is bad. You’re not supposed to quit. It’s viewed as a weakness and doesn’t make you feel good.
They’ll tell you “Chase your dreams relentlessly… You never know what’s up ahead… If you never give up, it’s bound to eventually work out.”
But what if it isn’t going to work out? What if it’s time to move on?
There are some things you should give up on. And I’m going to tell you which things.
Quit Tormenting Yourself
The first thing to quit is the idea that quitting isn’t okay.
Giving up isn’t always a bad thing. What if you’ve tried the last ten years to achieve something and it hasn’t worked out? Do you put in another ten?
After ten years of closed doors, it might be time to reevaluate.
Maybe that thing isn’t meant for you. Or maybe you don’t really want it that much.
When things are meant for you, they have a way of working out. Almost like the universe goes out of its way to assist you. Doors open, you meet the right people, you’re in the right place at the right time.
When the universe is telling you “No”, those doors don’t open. The path doesn’t rise to meet you.
When to be a Quitter
How do you know when it’s time to quit?
You quit when it’s not meant for you. And that’s something only you can decide.
I know you were hoping for a better answer here. But that’s the truth of it.
To figure it out you might start by asking if it’s your dream.
Does it fill you with passion for life and joy? Does the idea of stopping break your heart?
Would you do it even if it never made you a penny?
If yes, then keep at it.
But if you feel like you’re walking through mud, and you’re not excited about it anymore, maybe it’s time to quit.
Or if you hit roadblock after roadblock after roadblock.
I’m not saying dreams don’t take work. They do. There will be bumps in the road no matter which path you take. But if the road has turned into a navigational nightmare with no map… it might be time to move on.
Quit When You Don’t Really Want it…
Maybe it sounded like such a great idea until you got into it and now it’s not how you pictured it.
There’s no shame in that. That’s how you decide what you do want, by weeding out what you don’t.
It’s easy to get hung up on an idea of what we think we want. I said I wanted it and now I have to want it forever. I said it and now that’s who I am until the day I die and beyond. Actually no.
One great thing about life is the prerogative to change your mind.
You don’t have to wait for anything special. You can just up and decide.
Boom, done. Onto better things more suited for you.
You might be tempted to overcomplicate this with excuses. But at the end of the day, they’re just excuses.
Don’t be so dedicated to the time you spent on this dead dream, to waste even more time on it.
Who cares how long you tried? Who cares what someone else might have to say about it?
You learned from the experience. Now be smart enough to move on.
Quit When It’s Sucking Out Your Soul
This is by far the best reason to give up. And it’s what happens when you ignore what I just said above.
I don’t care what it is. If you feel like you’re dying a little inside doing something, don’t do it. Game over. The end.
It could be a job. It could be a relationship. It could be a charity you’re involved with. Any task done out of obligation and not done for joy will eat away at you.
I’m not telling you to give up charity. Charity is amazing. But if you aren’t enjoying it, maybe you’re needed elsewhere or in a different aspect.
Giving back feels amazing. So, if you don’t feel amazing, you’re doing it wrong.
Life is way too short to do something you don’t love. Yes, you have to pay bills. I know you don’t love everything you have to do smarty pants.
I’m talking about the big stuff. The main things in your life.
Those are the things you’ll look back on with smiles… or regret. Your choice.
Quit Trying to Change Other People
I’m not the first to say it, and I won’t be the last, people do not change unless THEY want to.
It doesn’t matter who they are, what they’re doing, or how bad you think it sucks.
You don’t get to tell others how to live their lives. You don’t get to tell them who they should be. Not your spouse, not even your kids.
Consider how hard it is to change something about yourself. Stop biting your nails or smoking.
It’s so hard. Even if it’s something you desperately want for yourself.
So how likely will it be for you to change someone else? Impossible.
Even if someone changes because you want them to, they’ll resent you for it later. You won’t be the winner here.
You wouldn’t want someone telling you what color your hair should be.
What if they told you what to believe or what you should want out of your life?
I don’t think you’d like that. And it can sometimes make you want to do the opposite.
You don’t get to tell anyone what journey is right for them. That’s not up to you.
Don’t quit rooting for people. Don’t quit supporting them. But quit trying to force them onto the path you think is right.
It’s their journey, not yours. Their failure isn’t your failure. Their win isn’t your win. Focus on your own path. Be supportive, but don’t try to own their journey.
What Others Say About You is None of Your Business
Quit caring what others think.
Is this their life? Will they deal with the negative consequences of your actions? Nope.
Honestly, they probably won’t even cheer much if you win.
Most of us are more focused on what’s going on in our own lives. Yes, we’re happy for others (at least most of us). But really, it doesn’t affect us all that much.
Think about it. When your best friend won an award, was it all you could think about for months? Did it consume your life? No. You said, “Yay Becky!” And then you went on with your life.
Same goes for you. So don’t worry what others might think or what they might say. Who cares? This is YOUR journey.
Quit Ignoring Your Own Damn Opinion
Much time is spent considering the advice of others. But when’s the last time you really got in touch with yourself to see what YOU want?
What’s important to you? What sets your soul on fire? What things make your days better?
Quit living your life for others. Give up on who it is you think everyone else wants you to be.
And give up on telling others who they should be. Search out your own dreams, and who gives a hoopla what anyone else thinks?
Time to start listening to what’s inside of you. What it is that makes you so damn special?
Learn to quit some things.
If not, you’ll keep feeling that tug from your soul, the one that says somethings not quite right.
That yearning for more.
We get one shot at this life, just one. Quit anything that doesn’t move you towards your dreams. It’s okay to quit.
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