Do you ever wish someone would just come to save you? Come help you off the ground?
Life would be so much easier.
But no one is coming. No one is coming to save you. No matter how hard you wish it.
You have to save yourself. Something I’ve become quite good at but didn’t really pay much attention to until recently.
A friend of mine said “You’re amazing at lifting yourself up. You don’t need anyone to see your own worth.”
She wanted me to share how I do that.
At first, I wasn’t sure how I do it. I’ve been doing it so long it feels like breathing at this point.
But I’ve been pondering it, and I’ve narrowed it down. What makes a difference in my life when I’m feeling down?
Check Your Eating Habits
This is always step one for me. It’s easy to get off track. Parties, dinners with friends, etc. You can easily slip into the habit of eating not so healthy food every day.
The problem with that (besides health) is how it affects your mood. How you feel can have a lot to do with what you’re eating.
If you’re giving your body crap food, you’re going to feel like crap.
Think about it. How do you feel after you eat a donut? Maybe happy for a second and then you get a sugar crash. You feel tired, sluggish, moody. And that’s just what’s happening on the surface.
I won’t get into all the science here, but many studies have been done on how poor-quality food can contribute to things like depression. Likewise, good-quality food contributes to better mental health.
More than that, giving your body good food says “I love you body. Here’s some good food to nourish you.”
Eating healthy doesn’t have to mean surviving on lettuce and carrot sticks. Just cut out the processed crap. Try to eat real whole foods. It doesn’t have to be more complicated than that.
It might sound like some nonsense to you, but EVERY time I eat better, I feel better.
If you have no idea where to start, type in “eating clean books” on amazon. They all have the same basic message, so just pick one and see where it takes you.
Move your body.
A body not in motion is stagnating. You need movement.
It can be as easy or hard as you want.
Do yoga. I love this lady on YouTube and it’s free: Free Yoga Video
Go to the gym. Being in the gym motivates you. Everyone in there is working out and it’s infectious.
Take classes at the gym. They have all kinds.
Or go walk or run outside. Ride your bike. Go for a hike. Being outdoors is amazing when you’re feeling down.
Move your body and raise those endorphins. You won’t always feel like it, so don’t think yourself out of it.
Just decide and get moving.
Clean Your House
You are affected by your environment whether you think so or not.
Just looking at this picture makes me feel stressed.
If your house is messy, you’ll feel off, as proven by how you feel when you look at that picture.
If nothing is organized, you’ll feel unorganized.
Organize that pile of papers on your desk, organize the Tupperware, take out the trash and sweep the floors.
There’s something about cleaning your house that makes you feel like you have your life together.
Make your environment into a calm, clean, beautiful space, and then try not to feel better. It’s impossible.
Write a To-Do List
Just like a cluttered house will make you crazy, so will a cluttered mind.
You need to get it out of your head.
The best way to do that is writing it down.
Make a list of everything you need to do:
- Around your house
- At work
- For your kids
- For your mental health
- For your physical health
- Bills you need to pay
- Goals you’d like to achieve
Writing it all down organizes your mind. Like your house, it’ll make you feel a million times better.
Get all that stuff out of your head and onto the paper.
Sometimes after doing all that other stuff, I still feel unbalanced.
That’s when I know I need to get quiet and look inward. I need to find my center.
There’s no better tool for this than meditation.
Meditation isn’t emptying the mind. It’s not sitting still and trying not to think.
You don’t even have to sit in silence.
My favorite way to meditate is listening to guided meditations on YouTube.
They talk, you listen. They guide you through it. It’s much easier than sitting in the silence and wondering what you’re supposed to be doing.
Here are a few of my favorites:
And there are a ton more. Just hop on YouTube and search “guided meditations”.
It’s as easy as that.
Confidence is built in the doing of things.
Every time you accomplish something you’ll feel better. Life is an adventure, so live it.
Get some work done, cross something off your to-do list, do that thing you’ve been putting off.
That’s where the real power is.
It may take some work, it may be hard to get going, but it’ll be worth it.
You can plan all day, but if you don’t eventually DO something, you’ll be back at square one.
This is the most important thing you can possibly do for yourself.
A life without a purpose is meaningless. Give your life purpose, give your life meaning.
No One is Coming to Save You
It’s a hard truth but it’s a truth none the less.
No one is coming. If you want to be saved, you have to save yourself.
Want a different life? You have to be the one to change it.
Wish you had a different job? Quit.
People spend a lot of time and energy making excuses and making it harder than it is. But it’s not hard.
Make the decision and do it. You’ll figure the rest out. Life won’t end.
Pivot (Said in Ross’s voice from Friends). Haha.
You can spend good years of your life praying for someone to save you, but you already have everything you need within you.
Take these tools and save yourself. You don’t have to do them all at once. Start with one.
After a while, add in another. Start growing in the direction you want your life to go.
Do what needs doing. Fix what needs fixing.
You are more powerful than you know. And you’ll never know if you never try.
You can do this. I believe in you.
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